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Pink slipped

June 2nd, 2009 · Older Essays

Success and security are wholly subjective terms.

“The economy” has become a threadbare phrase which tinges with the smell of sour baloney and an obese wet cat too to near your face. Everyone is aware, and no one really has much to say about it any more.

Some folks, such as my brother and his wife in Michigan keep their heads down, hopes up, and mouths shut as the week wears on. As engineers who work in concept and design they “should” be okay. There is the pawn game of ranking orders and years served which defines who gets what notice when.

Other friends here get half a week’s notice with the Recession named instead of Lord Voldemort for the termination of their role. It’s a shock and somehow you must keep your composure.

Then there are those who choose to walk away. They want to leave with heads held high instead of shutting out the lights a few weeks or months later out. Some have new roles to settle into, and others savings and scrappiness to pull them through. We Bartleby’s bond with our polite mantra, “We prefer not to.”

Depending on our ages and our experience we handle this differently. The weight assigned to the severity of it all, the amount of Tylenol or Haagen Daz or chocolate consumed, whether we become terse, or laugh out loud comes down to what we think of ourselves. There is always another option.

If this doesn’t work out, what next?  What’s the contingency plan? How can you hustle into something else? What has been percolating that you can leverage? If what you expected to be there was suddenly gone, how else could you keep things going?

Perhaps it’s the art of paying attention. A certain kind of attention.

After the plane landed safely in the Hudson, a myriad of stories were written about “survivor mode” and what is the it that happens that makes the difference between a situation imploding and the results disastrous, and a different outcome entirely.

Part of it is being calm and maintaining control. Another part is the ability to make decisions on the fly (without committee). But the most significant aspect, in my opinion, is how you perceive the situation in the first place.

What are paying attention to? Just what you are supposed to- or do you have a peripheral eye always on?

For example, there is a test where people are asked to identify how many photos there are in a newspaper as fast as they can.  The results follow two trends- a couple of minutes, or under 30 seconds. The people that complete the test so quickly notice the copy on the inside of page two that says, “STOP COUNTING THERE ARE 43 PHOTOGRAPHS IN THIS PAPER.”

You wouldn’t notice that if you did as you were told. You’d scan for images, not the copy around them. So you would miss out. You listened with a narrow view.

The folks that are adaptable, who pay attention, the who ones build relationships and focus on people first, money later seem to be best insulated against this hairy beast of a bad economy. They have more than one maneuver to walk through life. They assume you will need to know more than one thing to get by. They keep learning and looking.

They decide against failure.

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Poet types

June 2nd, 2009 · Older Essays

We can hide hate

in our ink

dripping bitter or

flinging subtle knives

We can rage against

unknown men whose

elections serve

to down integrity

We can talk

with parted legs

almost letting you

grab our privcacy

We can babble

citing intentional

confusion masking

our unclear vowelage

Or we can kvetch

to our notepaper spouse

who takes each brunting

tome without comment

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What Bartleby was thinking.

June 2nd, 2009 · Older Essays

“One of the truest tests of integrity is the blunt refusal to be compromised”  Chinua Acebe

It’s one thing to grouse in the safe private company of friends about mistakes, unfairness, and poor leadership. But who is willing to say, I prefer not to?

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Grit….

June 2nd, 2009 · Older Essays

“…what starts the process really are laughs and slights and snubs when you are a kid…But if you are reasonably intelligent and if your anger is deep enough and strong enough, you learn that you can change those attitudes by excellence, personal gut performance, while those who have everything are sitting on their fat butts…”  Richard Nixon

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