“We want the facts to fit the preconceptions. When they don’t it is easier to ignore the facts than to change the preconceptions.” Jessamyn West Tatamae and honne are Japanese terms. The first refers to your outer or public face. The one where you smile and respectfully show appropriate amounts of deference respect or asserted […]
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Public and private perceptions…
July 9th, 2009 · Comments Off on Public and private perceptions… · He said, She said, Older Essays
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Kefluffles and common sense
July 8th, 2009 · Comments Off on Kefluffles and common sense · He said, She said, Older Essays
Arianna Huffington recently posted about a shared vacation with her ex husband. I admire that. Divorce, when there are children involved, can be like having a chronic condition. You have to know what it is and manage it but on some level you have to accept it is there and will continue to be. Even […]
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Pole position
July 8th, 2009 · Comments Off on Pole position · Older Essays
“It’s not speed, it’s the ability to maneuver that really matters” The owner of the hobby shop where my older son gets advice and repairs for his remote control cars has told me this. He knows it from years of flying model airplanes and competing. “I fix, I fix. Aspetta….” My great grandmother would say […]
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In mixed company…
July 7th, 2009 · Comments Off on In mixed company… · Older Essays
When context is shared, conversations can operate on entirely different plane. There is no need for back story or metaphor to somehow embody all that you have been through. Instead there is the shared silent smile because everyone in the room has already been there, done that and there is no mystery nor need to […]
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